“Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.” Haruki Murakami
I ran across this quote today and it is yet another pointer to a word that has been much on my mind lately – “kindness.” It has recently occurred to me that “kindness” is a powerful yet underappreciated sibling of “love” that is somehow relegated to a lesser role. Anyway, that’s a whole ‘nother story. What struck me here was the admonition – “be kind, even if you are right.” We could, of course, just put the “.” after “kind” and leave it at that, but the point is a significant one. It is easy to “rub it in” when I am right, and kindness should be part of the celebration ritual. In winning, there is always a related loss, and the opportunity exits to amplify the winning with kindness.