From Anthony DeMello’s The Way To Love, this about how to think of “those people you dislike”:
“That means you cannot use labels like proud, lazy, selfish, arrogant. The label is an act of mental laziness, for it is easy to stick a label onto someone. It is difficult and challenging to see this person in his/her uniqueness.”
That’s difficult enough, but then:
“Consider the possibility that what you see as a defect in them may not be a defect at all but really something that your upbringing and conditioning have led you to dislike.”
And finally:
“If after this you still see a defect there, understand that the origin of the defect lies in childhood experiences, past conditionings, faulty thinking and perception; and above all in unawareness, not in malice.”
He closes with “…to understand is to forgive.”
Got it, but this may take a while. The first thing I may need to do is get rid of my “Stereotypes are real time savers” t-shirt. Or perhaps wear it inside out.
It occurs to me... 