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Seeking some peace of mind in all the talk and speeches of yesterday’s inaugural events, two things rolled into my head.  I touched base with this from the lyrics of a recent Kacey Musgraves song, because at least to me, life seems to play out and make sense in the form of a country and western song.   This from Kacey Musgraves: “It is what it is, ‘til it ain’t anymore.”  I also  returned to this from a November interview of former President Obama in Rolling Stone: “There’s no benefit that’s derived from pulling into a fetal position. We go out there, and we work. And we slog through challenges, and over time things get better.”

Each of us has or should have a view of what truth, justice, equality looks like.  Each of us has or should have a sense of what “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness” looks like.  Those still exist no matter if you “won” or “lost.”

Indeed:

“There’s no benefit that’s derived from pulling into a fetal position. We go out there, and we work. And we slog through challenges, and over time things get better.”

“It is what it is, ‘til it ain’t any more.”

From Mary Oliver’s Upstream:

“And whoever thinks these words are worthy, breathy words I am writing down is kind.  Writing is neither vibrant lie nor docile artifact bur a test that would upt all its money on the hope of suggestion.  Come with me into the field of sunflowers is a better line than any of you will find here, and the sunflowers themselves far more wonderful than any words about them.”

Indeed.  I’ll stop there and go look for some sunflowers.

I ran across this today from Mary Oliver in Upstream and it seemed like a perfect prayer:

“May I be the tiniest nail in the house of the universe, tiny but useful.”

This speaks to me of the balance that is required in life, particularly in a life of faith. It occurs to me that a life of faith must include the desire to be “useful,” but also includes the recognition of the need for, the usefulness of, others (and/or The Other).  It is alarmingly easy for me to unilaterally decide just what the universe needs and just what I (and others/the Other) can do to best accomplish that.  But that nail, that “tiny but useful” nail, can’t forge or drive itself.

Today’s sobering thoughts brought to you by Mary Oliver and Oswald Chambers:

In the beginning, I was so young and such a stranger to myself I hardly existed.  I had to go out into the world and see it and hear it and react to it, before I knew at all who I was, what I was, what I wanted to be.  Mary Oliver

The only way we can be of use to God is to let Him take us through the crooks and crannies of our own characters.  It is astounding how ignorant we are about ourselves.  Oswald Chambers

It occurs to me that those phrases, “such a stranger to myself I hardly existed” and “it is astounding how ignorant we are about ourselves” are even more sobering when I consider that no one knows more about me than me.  Still, there is hope that I might know (or at least learn more about) myself if consent to “go out into the world and see it and hear it and react to it” and “let Him take [me] through the crooks and crannies of [my] own character.”   That sounds like some fun, albeit occasionally embarrassing, and a whole lot like life.

If you can’t make fun of yourself, who can you make fun of?  Photo taken in Puerto Vallarta last month.

It occurs to me how vital a quality self-deprecation is.  It is, I think, a necessary quality given the human condition of imperfection.  But then what do I know?

There’s something about the first line of a song.  I know, there’s that “you can’t judge a book by its cover” and anti-jumping to conclusions sentiment, and I get that, but there is something about a first line in a song that cuts against that.  By way of example, some masterful first lines:

“He said I’ll love you ‘til I die.  She told him you’ll forget in time.” – He Stopped Loving Her Today

“She left a lipstick letter on the mirror, shattered on the bathroom floor.” – When Rita Leaves

“You’ve heard about love givin’ sight to the blind.  My baby’s love can cause the sun to shine.” Pride and Joy

And my award winner, currently, for best song first line:

“She put him out, like the burning end of a midnight cigarette.  She broke his heart.  He spent his whole life tryin’ to forget” – Whiskey Lullaby

I could go on, but I won’t, beyond adding the inspiration of these thoughts from a recently downloaded song:

“They say nothin’ lasts forever, but I’ve got news.  Whoever said that never got the blues from you.  This cloud I’m under’s looks like its gonna stay.  The thunder’s gonna roll forever and a day.” – Forever and a Day

Those lines grab me.  They set the tone for the rest of the song, they influence what follows.  It occurs to me that each day has a “first line.”  I suppose that is in part why I start many days reading, thinking, and then looking at this screen*, hoping to set a memorable first line that influences the rest of my day – hopefully one that is not a “downer” first line like most of the above.

*Note to Ms. Holmes: Yes, keyboard.  I lstill ook mostly at the keyboard when I type.  Yes Ms. Holmes, I STILL look at the keyboard when I type, and I am proud of that C- in typing class in 1973.

I started down this path after reading of, then listening to Meryl Streep’s speech last night in which she speaks her mind on Donald Trump.   Then he “spoke”his.

It is, I suppose, a constant conundrum –  when to hold your tongue.  One can find seemingly inconsistent positions on this.  Heck, just within Proverbs we are told “he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin” (Proverbs 13:13), but also that “the lips of the wise spread knowledge.”  I doubt the Bible wants us all to be mute on all issues.  Like all things, there is a time to shut up and a time to speak up (though that’s not in the famous Ecclesiastes 3 run of “a time to”s.  Protesters have a right to protest.  People have a right to respond.  Meryl Streep has a right to speak her mind.  Donald Trump has a right to call her an “over-rated actress” and “a Hillary flunky who lost big.”  (I will say though that last one seems odd since in her speech Streep was holding the mike in one hand, and the just awarded Cecil B. DeMille Award for lifetime achievement in the other.  Oh well, at least he had the sense to refrain from calling her a “loser,” which would have been even more inconsistent.)

Sorry, that sounds like a political rant.  All this leads to one point – well, I guess, two:  Words matter.  Actions matter.

Today I stumbled on an excerpt from Anne Lamott’s Bird By Bird, one of her early books about writing.  From an early chapter entitled “Shitty First Drafts:”

“[S]hitty first drafts. All good writers write them. This is how they end up with good second drafts and terrific third drafts. People tend to look at successful writers who are getting their books published and maybe even doing well financially and think that they sit down at their desks every morning feeling like a million dollars, feeling great about who they are and how much talent they have and what a great story they have to tell; that they take in a few deep breaths, push back their sleeves, roll their necks a few times to get all the cricks out, and dive in, typing fully formed passages as fast as a court reporter. But this is just the fantasy of the uninitiated. I know some very great writers, writers you love who write beautifully and have made a great deal of money, and not one of them sits down routinely feeling wildly enthusiastic and confident. Not one of them writes elegant first drafts. All right, one of them does, but we do not like her very much. We do not think that she has a rich inner life or that God likes her or can even stand her.”

It occurs to me what much of what Lamott discusses relating to writing also applies generally to life – particularly at the new year.  That is, I make a resolution and expect that I will keep it for, at a minimum, 365 days, perhaps a lifetime.  It will, I think, be easy because I am resolved to stick with it.  “But this is just the fantasy of the uninitiated.”  Or, perhaps better stated, then comes January 2, then January 3, January 4, January 5, January 6, January 7, January 8, January 9, January 10, January 11, January 12, January 13, January 14, 14….  You get the point.

Mostly, success, success in writing, professional success, personal success, success in anything, comes in fits and starts, it comes through victory and defeat, through joy and sadness, through determination and resignation, then more determination and resignation.  It comes through (watch out, he’s mixing metaphors) taking the closed-eyed swing of the “shitty first draft” mess we call yesterday, trusting in grace and forgiveness, picking up the bat (or the pen, or the whatever) dusting off my ego, and taking another swing for the fence today (or hell, maybe just trying to just advance a runner with a sacrifice bunt).  To paraphrase Samuel Beckett (I don’t know if he liked baseball) success comes from trying again, failing again, but failing better.

It popped into my mind this morning, and I have long given up the thought that these things are “just a coincidence:”

“When peace like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll
Whatever my lot, thou hast taught me to say
It is well, it is well, with my soul

It is well
With my soul
It is well, it is well with my soul”

Today is Epiphany.  This is, according to Wikipedia, the day “that celebrates the revelation of God in his Son as human in Jesus Christ. In Western Christianity, the feast commemorates principally … the visit of the Magi to the Christ Child”   While the song was not written until some 1871 years later, it occurs to me that the feeling and emotion I get when I listen to It Is Well With My Soul is something like what the Magi felt as they gazed at the baby Jesus (except x some number).  “It is well, it is well, with my soul.”

The Magi did not, of course, at that point know the rest of the story.  I do:

“Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,
Let this blest assurance control,
That Christ has regarded my helpless estate,
And hath shed His own blood for my soul

It is well (it is well)
With my soul (with my soul)
It is well, it is well with my soul

My sin, oh, the bliss of this glorious thought
My sin, not in part but the whole,
Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, o my soul

It is well (it is well)
With my soul (with my soul)”

Indeed.  It is well with my soul.

No man is an island,
Entire of itself,
Every man is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thy friend’s
Or of thine own were:
Any man’s death diminishes me,
Because I am involved in mankind,
And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;
It tolls for thee.

John Donne – No Man Is An Island

This poem, or at least a line of it, popped into my head today.  “I am involved in mankind.”  Well I am, willingly or not.  That is, I guess, one of Donne’s main points.  The challenge, I guess, is not in determining  “if” I am “involved in mankind,” which seems to be a given.  I am a piece of the puzzle, a link in the chain, a cog in the wheel, or, if you will, (this would likely win a majority vote) a “clod” of the universe.

The challenge is not in the “if”, but in the “how.”